Could he BE more jealous??

I dated this kid for a very long time. Two and a half years long. We’ll call him…. Derek. I could share so many stories about how selfish he was and how still I can’t believe the things he said and did, but there’s too many. Also, I have this brilliant gift where I forget very quickly really dumb things people do to me. As long as a person says they are sorry and tells me my hair looks good, I am cast into a brief trance where I will forget why I was upset in the first place. As this is the case, I don’t have many stories to share. However, I do remember some instances that I had I paid more attention to, I would have been able to avoid a very long, drawn out relationship that I got all I needed out of in the first two months.

He would get jealous. Over everything. This guy clearly had some emotional and confidence issues. If I spent any time with another boy he would completely freak out.

I remember once we travelled to Hungary for a volleyball tournament. (It’s actually about twenty times less legit than it sounds). Twenty students from our high school flew from Istanbul to Budapest. I got to travel with my boyfriend… also less cool than it sounds. We all checked into the hotel and I went put my bags in my hotel room. I was followed by my friend, Jim whom I knew my boyfriend hated (because of jealousy). We were sitting on opposite sides of the room, on different beds, talking about the anticipated competitive days ahead. That was when Derek walks in. Usually I wouldn’t think anything about someone walking in on me talking with a boy, but when you’re in the situation where you know you’re in a jealous relationship, you get very anxious and nervous for no real reason. I froze, knowing some wrath was going to come upon us. Derek promptly responded by yelling (luckily crappy memory of horrible situations kicks in here). I thought he was going to hit Jim and I both. To my relief he just left as quick as he came and slammed the door. I was left completely confused. I should have ran from the relationship, but I didn’t.

This was a brief encounter that was repeated over and over again in our relationship. Jealousy is a horrible emotion. Nothing good ever comes from jealousy. Fact. Because of his multiple insecurities and my desire to be friends with everyone, yes, even boys, our relationship had oh so many issues. After the relationship I had with him I was able to realize I never wanted to be in one like that again. I needed freedom. I needed freedom to be in the same room as another boy without being consumed with guilt and fear. Might I suggest to avoid a boy that expels symptoms of being a jealous person. No girl should ever have to be in the situation where she is scared to have friends. I’m glad I learned, but you better believe it was the hard way.